Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Dating Tips-Do You Have a Broken Heart?

"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit."
-Napolean Hill

If you are struggling with the pain and heartache that goes along with ending a relationship you are not alone. Although you may feel very alone with this broken heart of yours there are many people who have walked down this path and who have not only survived but they have gone on to have a great life.

The first thing you must do is accept the fact that this part of your life is over. And remember, "Just because you relationship is over, doesn't mean your life is over!" Acceptance will be the beginning of letting go and healing your broken heart. If you hold onto the hope that things will work out all you are doing is prolonging your pain and avoiding the inevitable.

Now is the time to make healthy decisions that will help you move forward rather than staying stuck living in the past. Here is a list of the top 5 things you can do that will help to make this transition bearable. If you choose not to do these things be prepared to suffer longer than need be.

1. Surround yourself with family and friends. This is the time to call in the troops. Lean on them, talk with them, vent your feelings and get it out so you can put it behind you. Spend quality time with them as well, just don't use them as a sounding board. Go to dinner, to the movies, on a vacation, for a walk, to the gym etc. Just make sure you are spending time with people who love you.

2. Exercise! This is the number one thing that will make you feel better not to mention look better. Exercise releases chemicals called endorphins that will make you feel better and is incredible for releasing stress. It will elevate your mood, improve your self esteem and it will help you sleep. There is no down side to exercise, it's all good, so make it a part of your daily routine.

3. Change your thoughts! If you learn how to tune into your inner dialogue and change your thoughts to those that will help lift you up instead of squashing you further into the ground, you will heal your broken heart sooner rather than later. Your words create how you feel. So learn how to flip the script when you're walking down Woe-Is-Me Lane.
4. Be thankful. When we are so consumed with our pain we forget how much we have in our lives to be grateful for. Make sure you wake up each day and before you start to think about how bad you feel and why and if only and why me, begin each day and count your blessings. Not only will it start your day off on a happier note, it will hopefully begin to put things into perspective for you.

5. Believe in your future. Believe in yourself and believe you will get over this pain. Whether you choose to believe will never get over this or you choose to believe you will, you're right. Whatever you believe you will make come true. So cry, get it out, and then let it go and move on. There is a whole big world waiting for you!

There isn't a person on this planet that leaves it without some type of heartache or adversity that shows up on their doorstep. But, depending on how you choose to deal with what happens to you; how you choose to view it will make all the difference in how quickly or slowly you heal your broken heart.

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