Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Bad Habits You Should Tell Your Partner Before You Get Married

So you are getting married. Wonderful. Love may be blind but marriage sure will reveal its lucidity.
A habit is defined as a recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition.
Let me say that once more, frequent repetition.
If you have issues, discuss them. Just because one or the other rolls their eyes does not constitute means for silence. Talk. Even when you hate each other, talk.

Some habits are minor, as annoying or gross as they may seem. For instance, nail biting, and nose picking is just gross. Knuckle cracking is annoying and bad for you, but they are still deemed more of a minor significance.

So what are some of the bad boys and if you are the one with the bad habit here are some tips.
1. Saying "yes" all the time is a bad habit. This is something you will need to learn and this is more particular of women than men. However there are men people pleasers as well.
If you don't have the guts to say no to someone you can always say, "Let me think about it and I will tell you later." You can also commit to a lesser commitment than was asked of you.
2. Holding Grudges. Feelings of resentment benefit no one. You must let go and let god so to speak. If your partner keeps a chip on their shoulder it will only widen the communication gap.
3. If you are hiding a smoking, binge drinking, drug addiction habit platter of issues, get help. Don't get married, have babies and try to hide this from your partner. Get real with yourself and make the change.
4. Borrowing money If you have a habit of borrowing money from people this is something that your partner should know. If you are in serious debt and have a habit of careless spending.
5. Procrastination as a side note, I will say that procrastination is ridiculous. It takes action before motivation. Just do it. Once you start something it is not that bad and you know it. So get to action. Work first, play later and you will reap the sweet rewards.
6. Overeating this is another big bad habit. Are you okay? Let's get serious about getting your weight under control. If you have unresolved issues then get help. What is stopping you? You and I both know that your body was not designed to be overweight. It's unnatural.
7. Gambling I once met a man who was resentful even as an adult that his mother had gambled all their money and lost the house. I think that is enough said.
8. Compulsive shopping. Try to be honest with each other. If you want more money and want to shop more then get another job. Don't rob the family of any quality of life for your own addictions. It's just not right.
9. Pornography and other sexual addictions. It's your choice do you want to make love to your partner or a fantasy? Whatever your choice may be it is not fair to one person to be ignored and harbor thoughts of insecurity and humility on account of your own pleasure. This is a discussion waiting to happen if person is struggling with this.
Now if your partner needs a little help here are some tips for you.
1. Do not "nag" them. Nagging someone makes them automatically defensive. Your partner will feel personally attacked.
2. Share your feelings, but stick to the initial issue. Don't sidetrack about what happened 'last week"
3. Set a good example yourself. Sometimes being a good example will have a greater affect than all the words in the world.
4. Avoid using "you messages". You messages put people down. Saying "You never show up on time." Or "You always do this, or that" When you talk to others in this manner, it shuts down communication.
5. Instead, Say something like, "I feel anxious when you are late, because I worry that you are abandoning me or that you are hurt somewhere." Fill in the blanks for different situations. You will get a much better response than saying, "You are always late."
6. Assert yourself and then keep quite. Listen to the other person. Be a support, not an enemy. Repeating yourself over and over will lead to insanity. Let it go. If you can't live with it, then go. But the issue needs to go somewhere. It won't just go away.
7. Avoid codependency.

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

How to Get a Man to Marry You - 3 Incredibly Powerful Ways Guaranteed to Work!

Is your relationship at a point where you finally know that you are meant to be in each others arms for the rest of your life? Are you getting anxious of the day that your man finally asks you marry him?

If you are in this situation right now you must be nodding your head and thinking of your man right now. I know exactly what it feels like to be in your situation and I know that it can be frustrating to have finally be at this point in your life when you want things to be more secure and settle down to start a family.

When I got frustrated with my situation I decided immediately that I was going to take action by finding a way to get this man to marry me. I was able to gather some helpful tips you can also use in your personal battles.
Here are some tips to get you man to marry you in no time.

Make Him Feel at Home
Do you always look for that happiness and comfort you once had at your home?
There is nothing like the comforts of being with someone and you can use this to your advantage. Learn to take extra care of him and make sure that he is happy being with you. Let him confide in you the problems he cannot say to others that are close to him. You should give him sound advice so he knows that he can rely on you and always take his issues seriously.

Unconditional Love
When you love someone unconditionally the efforts taken are not requited meaning you do not expect anything in return. That is why I learned how to do things for my boyfriend without expecting anything in return. I learned this because when you want to start a family, love should come down from the parents first to make your family safe place for everyone belonging in it.

Let Him Know what you want
I told my boyfriend from the start that I was looking for a serious relationship the type that you want to have when you want to marry someone. This showed him what I wanted from our relationship. This allows the man to have a mindset of what your relationship's goal is. This now makes your relationship with each other a priority in his life making it easier for you to bring up the idea of marriage.
Here's the most effective romantic trick on the planet-
This method is so powerful you'll be able to get the man you want to fall head over heels in love with you instantly.

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Is He Really Into You? 4 Tell Tale Signs So You Will Know For Sure

These days and times the rules of dating have changed, they have changed heaps. There are now hundreds of new ways to date someone. But deep down we all still love some of the old ways, like going out somewhere together and spending actual time together. Sharing things together. You know what I mean Quality time together.

4 Tell tale signs that he is really into you are:

1. When he is really into you he will show it by spending quality time with you. Now I don't mean in bed having sex or making love, I mean really good quality time with you wanting to get to know you, and be mystified by you. Deep down I think you really know the truth about the type of quality time that you deserve and should have. If the guy you are with is not doing this and not giving you the time you really should have I would start having a think about what to do in this area!

2. When he is really into you he wont care about when or where he displays his affection for you. I am not talking about the bedroom side of things I mean a public display of affection. I mean like walking down the street does he hold your hand?or while walking does he place his arm protectively around you, or does he hug and kiss you romantically like it would be his last?

3. When he is really into you, how often does he make eye contact with you, I mean does his eyes smile at you, do they look at you with his heart or with his mind? Does he look at you in a way that would make you melt?
4. When he is really into you it's the little things that count, he will be willing to do these for you without asking questions, does he help tidy up around the house, does he put the trash outside, does he do many random acts of thoughtfulness and kindness that will make you take more notice of him, does he get you presents or flowers even.

If you discover that this is not the case I would be looking at ways to rectifying this problem. When it all boils down to it we all need love in the right way otherwise we feel like we have become insignificant in this big world. If he is not treating you with the love and respect that you wish for then its about time that you spend your precious time with the one that knows he is really into you.

How to Attract Women - Why Women Reject Some Guys and Not Others

I am sure that you have seen some situations where a woman will reject a guy and it does not seem to make any sense at all, and then that same woman will fall for a guy that seems to be way down on the totem pole when compared to her. We have all seen this before and it can make you kind of scratch your head and wonder, WHY?

Why is it that some guys get rejected and others do not, yet they really don't appear to be much different at all?
Well, to put it simply, one guy knows how to attract women and the other doesn't. If you feel that you are the kind of guy that usually ends up getting the shaft when it comes to dating and attracting women, you might be wondering what you are doing wrong and what you can improve on to attract women and get over the sting of rejection.

Here are some tips on how to attract women and why some guys get rejected by women and others don't:
1. Women are attracted to men that feel good about themselves.
You can almost always spot a guy that seems to feel good about himself no matter where he is and what they situation is. You have to get that inner game in check if you want to have women become easily attracted to you. And as an added bonus, it helps to easily make the rest of your life seem better as well.
2. Women are attracted to men that make THEM feel good about themselves.
However, you have to make a clear distinction between making a woman feel good about herself and just straight up sucking up to her. Sucking up to a woman seems shallow and empty and has little effect on her after a while. But, when you only hand out compliments to a woman when she deserves them, they have more meaning. And they make her feel REALLY good.
3. Women REJECT men that do not know how to play the game.
Yes, there is a game or a song and dance that kind of goes along with dating and attraction. If you do not know how to play the game right, then you are not going to walk away a winner and with the girl that you want. Sometimes experience is more than enough to be able to know exactly what to say and do, and other times, leveraging the experience of others can help you make much quicker progress