Saturday, February 26, 2011

Dating Tips-What Is True Love - A Choice or a Feeling?

What is true love? Can one really define or say that what he feels for somebody is true love? Is it automatic that if we always want to be with one person, talk to him everyday, spend our lifetime with him that is already true love?
If we look into a dictionary, love is defined as an emotion ranging from generic to strong intense personal affection. In the Bible, it is written under 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 that love is patient and kind. It protects, trusts, hopes and perseveres.

So, is it just right to say that true love is a strong feeling for someone or something without conditions and pretentions?

I have been in many relationships and I can't even determine when love was true. I have asked the question "What is true love?" countless of times before. Sometimes we get confused from the idea of true love and plain admiration. We tend to be giving everything for the person without really knowing what the feeling is all about. In some instances after being so heartbroken then someone comes along and showed you the best things in life, we tend to look at it as the true love we have been wanting for.
Sometimes, we just like the person. Then we get used to being with that person that we conclude it is already true love. It may be because of how he looks, his ways towards you and all.

Yes, everything starts from physical attraction. Then as time passes, you get to know his inner self. Whether he is someone you dreamt of or not, in a way or two you will see goodness in that person that will eventually develop stronger emotions and justify what you feel.
But what if we then realize that we were just infatuated? We wasted so much time on one person believing that what we have is true love. We were so blinded by the magic and the intimacy.

Asking "What is true love?" I think we can never really give a definite meaning to what true love is nor someone can formulate an equation or scientific basis on what it really is. But based on experience and advices from people who have been in and out of relationships, you will know it is true when there is so much intimacy, passion and of course, commitment.
These three elements may not be the best words to describe true love but these are very important ingredients to say we truly love a person. We share so much confidence and personal details of our lives to the person we love. We are physically and sexually attracted to the person that we care so much about them. We consider ourselves a part of his wholeness and vice versa. We greatly value and deeply give ourselves to the person - our time, our happiness and life.
In the end, true love is all about choices - making the right choices. It wouldn't matter whether you are with the perfect one or the person matched made in heaven for you. All that matters is that when you are in a relationship you try to make everything at least right and be true to yourself and your partner. Contentment, honesty and making the right choices will make you experience true love.

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